Doing New Things Changes How We See Ourselves
“We have two choices in life, we step forward into growth, or we step back into safety.” Abraham Maslow
Many of the people I work with don’t feel broken, just stuck, like life has quietly moved on without them.
When we avoid new experiences, it shrinks the self; expansion gives the nervous system evidence of its own capabilities.
Hiking isn’t just restorative because it’s calming or good for fitness, both can be attained much closer to home. It’s powerful because it enhances self-expansion: we grow our sense of who we are by engaging with new experiences, challenges, and environments. It stretches who we think we are so we come back with more certainty in ourselves than when we left. For people who feel a sense of stagnation or oscillation with their own identity, this isn’t a luxury, it’s essential to healing.
Our journey with healing isn’t just about saying no to what harms us, it’s about saying yes to experiences that build us up again.
When our sense of self has shrunk or been distorted through addiction, depression, anxiety, burnout, or loneliness, our life can feel very small.
Self-Expansion theory suggests we feel more alive, motivated, and connected when we:
– Try novel experiences
– Encounter new perspectives
– Push our capabilities through challenges
Pursuing these goals contributes to feeling more secure and grounded in ourselves, rather than just chasing self-improvement.
When hiking in the outdoors, we are separated from the problems that seem to engulf us in day-to-day life. Out there, we are all just humans moving through the land, as our nervous systems have spent hundreds of thousands of years evolving to.
Out on the walk, something shifts. The constant background tension drops. You breathe differently. Your body remembers it knows how to move naturally through the world.
As the weather changes and the terrain surprises us, we adapt and alter our approach, and you realise you can keep going. You adjust your pace. You problem-solve without overthinking it. Confidence rises naturally. Our perspective widens. What kept us stuck doesn’t feel quite as rigid anymore
Standing over a vast horizon does something subtle yet powerful. Problems don’t disappear, but they stop filling the whole frame. You take a step back and gain further perspective, opening up solutions that seemed previously hidden.
Hiking doesn’t ask people to confront their past directly. It builds capability and belief first, resilience merely grows from the actions.
Core reflections that often comes to light on the journey:
How do I feel about myself when I am moving forward?
What block was holding me back before?
Roaming is an adventure into exploring our core understandings of who we are, what we are capable of, and then restoring the direction we want to go.